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How to grieve your child's former identity

My daughter came out as transgender six months ago and I cannot tell anyone that while I love and support her I am also grieving the son I thought I had.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Celebrating someone's authentic self while mourning your previous understanding of them creates a grief that has no acceptable public expression.

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