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Scenario

How to handle birthday messages from your ex-spouse

My ex-husband texted me happy birthday yesterday and I cried for an hour because it felt like he still knew me but also like he was a stranger.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Familiar gestures from estranged intimates reveal the uncanny valley between who we were together and who we are apart.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief for lost relationships — ambiguous loss of divorce?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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