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Why changing verb tenses after death feels like killing someone twice

My father died and I have been calling him Dad in past tense but it feels like I am erasing him from existence every time I do it.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The grammatical shift from present to past tense forces an acknowledgment of finality that can feel like an additional act of loss.

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