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How to handle death of someone who harmed you

My father-in-law molested me as a teenager and when he died my husband expected me to attend the funeral and I couldn't explain why I wouldn't go.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The dead abuser takes their secrets with them while leaving their victims to navigate public mourning.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief and relief — complex feelings after difficult deaths?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.