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Why we grieve people who hurt us

My father was abusive and when he died I cried harder than anyone at the funeral and I still don't understand why.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The heart mourns not just who someone was, but who they might have been and who we needed them to be.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief and gratitude — the paradox?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.