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What to do when friends use humor to put you down

My friend group has developed an inside joke that is actually about making fun of me, and they act like I should find it funny too, but it makes me feel humiliated every time.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Cruelty disguised as humor creates a particular kind of gaslighting where your pain becomes evidence that you cannot take a joke.

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