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Why gratitude advice backfires with fresh grief

My friend said I should 'count my blessings' when I told her about my father's sudden death and I have been counting everything I lost instead.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The demand for appreciation can feel violent when loss has revealed how fragile every blessing actually is.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with What not to say to a grieving person?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.