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When enmeshment trauma makes healthy boundaries feel selfish

My girlfriend wants us to live together but I need my own space to breathe - my mother was so enmeshed with me I couldn't tell where she ended and I began.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The childhood experience of merged identity makes normal autonomy feel like betrayal or abandonment.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”

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