Periagoge
Scenario

When grief doesn't show up the way your family expects it to

My grandmother died three days ago and my family expects me to wail and cry publicly at the funeral tomorrow but I feel numb and empty inside and I am terrified they will think I did not love her enough.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

She fears her internal emotional landscape doesn't match the communal expressions her culture requires, mistaking grief's many faces for inadequate love.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with African grief traditions — communal mourning?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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