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Why grief exercises can backfire when relationships were complicated

My grief counselor suggested I write letters to my dead husband but every time I try I get angry at him for leaving me with all this debt and responsibility.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Therapeutic techniques designed for idealized love crumble when applied to real relationships marked by resentment, leaving mourners feeling more broken than before.

Ideas that help explain it
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