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How to navigate attraction changes in long-term relationships

My husband has gained sixty pounds in the last two years and I feel terrible about it but I am not physically attracted to him anymore and I hate myself for being so shallow.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The body changes but desire often does not, creating a cruel gap between love and longing.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Long-term partnership — sustaining love over time?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.