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When early loss shapes your identity completely

My mom died when I was fifteen and I realize now that I have been trying to become the mother I lost, but I do not know who I actually am underneath all that caretaking.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Grief becomes so foundational to identity that the self exists only in relation to what was lost.

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