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When saying no feels like being a bad person

My neighbor keeps asking me to watch her kids for free while she goes to the casino and I say yes every time even though it is affecting my own children's bedtime routine and my marriage.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Your identity as a good person has become dependent on never disappointing anyone, even when helping hurts those you love most.

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