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Scenario

When your child expresses survivor guilt

My nine-year-old said he wishes he had died instead of his twin and I felt relief that someone finally said what I've been thinking.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A child's devastating honesty about wishing for death mirrors a parent's own forbidden thoughts, creating shared shame around impossible grief.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Children and grief — supporting young people?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.