My parents had screaming matches that ended with thrown dishes and I promised myself I would never be like that, but my partner says I shut down so completely during conflict that they feel like they are arguing with a wall.
More people experience this than they realize.
You learned that engagement leads to destruction, so you chose disappearance.
“Where Are You with Your Parents' Relationship and How It Shaped Yours?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.