My partner has PTSD from combat and sometimes wakes up swinging and last night he hit me in his sleep and I don't know if I should tell him because he will hate himself.
More people experience this than they realize.
Love requires both protection of the beloved and protection of the self, and sometimes these needs directly conflict.
“Where Are You with Love and trauma — loving someone with a difficult past?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.