My son has autism and I love him exactly as he is but I also grieve the milestones he'll never reach and feel terrible for having that grief.
More people experience this than they realize.
You are learning to hold two truths - that he is perfect as he is and that some dreams must be buried - without letting either diminish the other.
“Where Are You with Integration — not getting over but getting with?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.