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Scenario

When others claim to know what your deceased loved one would want

My wife died and her friends keep telling me what she would have wanted me to do and I want to tell them to stop speaking for her because she's not here to speak for herself.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The dead become ventriloquist dummies for the living's projections and agendas.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.