My wife died and her friends keep telling me what she would have wanted me to do and I want to tell them to stop speaking for her because she's not here to speak for herself.
More people experience this than they realize.
The dead become ventriloquist dummies for the living's projections and agendas.
“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.