My wife has trichotillomania from childhood stress and pulls out her hair when anxious and I pretend not to notice but she knows I notice and it's this weird dance of pretending.
More people experience this than they realize.
Sometimes love means witnessing someone's pain while pretending not to see it.
“Where Are You with Love and trauma — loving someone with a difficult past?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.