Periagoge
Scenario

When your partner has compulsive behaviors you both acknowledge but don't discuss

My wife has trichotillomania from childhood stress and pulls out her hair when anxious and I pretend not to notice but she knows I notice and it's this weird dance of pretending.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Sometimes love means witnessing someone's pain while pretending not to see it.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Love and trauma — loving someone with a difficult past?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.