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Why speaking for the dead hurts the living

People keep telling me my wife 'wouldn't want me to be sad' and I want to ask them when exactly they had that conversation with her.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Presuming to voice the deceased's wishes denies the griever's right to feel what they feel.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with What not to say to a grieving person?”

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