Since my mom died I can't stand when people try to comfort me with hugs or kind words, I just want them to help me with her affairs and practical things, but everyone thinks I'm being cold.
More people experience this than they realize.
Trauma can temporarily rewire our capacity to receive care, making traditional comfort feel unbearable while practical support becomes sacred.
“Where Are You with The love languages — examined critically?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.