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When close friends start performing success instead of being real

My best friend and I used to stay up all night talking about everything and nothing, but now our conversations feel like we're both performing the role of 'successful adult' for each other. We update each other on achievements and plans but never admit when we're struggling or confused, and I miss the version of us that could be messy together.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Both friends have unconsciously agreed to show only their highlight reels, creating a distance that neither acknowledges but both feel.

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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Adult play — how to reclaim it?”

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