My brother and I have been playing chess every Sunday for years and lately he's been getting increasingly intense about it, studying openings online and timing my moves, turning what used to be casual into something that feels like a tournament. I don't want to hurt his feelings but it's sucking all the joy out of our time together.
More people experience this than they realize.
One person's increased investment in winning threatens the easy intimacy that drew them to play together in the first place.
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