My husband and I planted our first vegetable garden last spring with such excitement and it completely failed - everything died or got eaten by pests - and now we can't even talk about trying again without one of us getting defensive about whose fault it was.
More people experience this than they realize.
The garden became a symbol of shared disappointment, and neither person knows how to move from blame to playful experimentation again.
“Where Are You with Gardening and growing things?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.