My husband and I used to be the couple that would start dance parties in the kitchen while cooking dinner, but now we move around each other like polite roommates and I can't remember the last time we were spontaneous together. We both keep saying we should plan something fun but then we never do, and when we try it feels forced.
More people experience this than they realize.
The choreography of joy has been replaced by the choreography of efficiency, and neither partner knows how to break the pattern without it feeling artificial.
“Where Are You with Adult play — how to reclaim it?”
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