My partner and I used to take silly little weekend trips without any agenda but now we research everything extensively and create itineraries and backup plans because we want to make the most of our time together. We've optimized the spontaneity right out of our adventures and neither of us wants to suggest we're trying too hard.
More people experience this than they realize.
The fear of wasting precious time together has eliminated the possibility of wonderful accidents.
“Where Are You with The examined vacation?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.