My teenage daughter and I used to have this running joke about everything and now every conversation feels like I'm either lecturing her or walking on eggshells and she's either rolling her eyes or being polite and we both know something shifted but neither of us knows how to get back to actually enjoying each other's company.
More people experience this than they realize.
You've both retreated into your assigned family roles and forgotten you actually like each other as people.
“Where Are You with Ecopsychology?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.