My wife and I have been together fifteen years and we've gotten really good at being married but somehow forgot how to surprise each other. We know each other's routines perfectly and anticipate each other's needs and it's beautiful and also completely predictable. I can't remember the last time either of us did something spontaneous.
More people experience this than they realize.
Mastery of partnership has paradoxically eliminated the delightful unpredictability that feeds romantic aliveness.
“Where Are You with Birdwatching as practice?”
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