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When couples avoid conflict so much they become boring to each other

My wife and I used to be the couple that would get into passionate debates about movies and books and ideas, but now we're so focused on not fighting that our conversations have become incredibly bland. We're both walking on eggshells trying to keep things peaceful, but the peace feels hollow because nothing we say matters enough to disagree about.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The fear of real disagreement has eliminated not just conflict but also the passionate engagement that made the relationship vital.

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