My wife goes into full perfectionist mode before any celebration we host and makes herself miserable with detailed timelines and backup plans for everything while I just want to order pizza and hang out with people. We end up fighting right before guests arrive because I'm not taking it seriously enough and she's stressed beyond belief and the actual party becomes this weird performance of us pretending we're fine.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two different relationships to festivity are colliding instead of complementing, turning preparation into a battlefield of values.
“Where Are You with Festivals and celebrations?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.