I keep having the same argument with my mother where she says I never call and I say I called last week and we both know we're not really talking about phone calls.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're having a conversation about everything except what you're having a conversation about.
“Where Are You with Nasreddin Hodja's stories — wisdom through absurdity?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.