LibraryScenariosWhen trying to control others' perceptions backfires
Scenario

When trying to control others' perceptions backfires

I wore a ridiculous outfit to my ex's wedding because I wanted everyone to think I was doing great but now I just look unhinged in all the photos.

Nas
Online
The coach is replying

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The desperate attempt to manage how others see our pain often produces the exact evidence of that pain we were trying to hide.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The sacred clown?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.