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When family members in recovery programs struggle with each other

My adult son and I are both in Al-Anon because of his father's alcoholism but we keep falling into the same codependent patterns with each other that we're supposed to be learning to recognize, and I don't know how to break the cycle when we're both still learning the tools.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people learning similar lessons about boundaries and codependence are discovering how difficult it is to practice new patterns with someone who triggers old ones.

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