My brother and I are co-executors of our father's estate and we keep having the same fight about fairness versus what Dad actually wanted, but underneath I think we're really fighting about who loved him better and who failed him more.
More people experience this than they realize.
Administrative decisions become proxies for unresolved grief and sibling competition, making practical resolution impossible.
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