My brother and I both went through intensive Abhidhamma training in different traditions and now when we try to discuss our family trauma, we end up in these weird debates about whether our childhood wounds are kusala or akusala mental factors. We're both trying to heal but our different frameworks are making us more isolated from each other, not less.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your therapeutic frameworks have become barriers to actually connecting with each other's pain.
“Where Are You with Buddhist psychology in depth — Abhidharma?”
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