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When spiritual friendships become codependent

My closest friend and I both struggle with what I think is nafs al-lawwama - we're constantly second-guessing ourselves spiritually and seeking validation from each other but lately I'm wondering if we're actually enabling each other's spiritual anxiety instead of growing toward genuine self-accountability.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Two people seeking spiritual growth together are questioning whether their mutual support has become a form of shared avoidance of the individual work required for spiritual maturation.

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