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Scenario

When spiritual friendships become codependent

My closest friend and I both struggle with what I think is nafs al-lawwama - we're constantly second-guessing ourselves spiritually and seeking validation from each other but lately I'm wondering if we're actually enabling each other's spiritual anxiety instead of growing toward genuine self-accountability.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people seeking spiritual growth together are questioning whether their mutual support has become a form of shared avoidance of the individual work required for spiritual maturation.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Islamic psychology — nafs and spiritual wellbeing?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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