My husband and I have been in couples therapy for six months working on communication, but now we're both so hyper-aware of our patterns that every conversation feels performative, like we're trying to demonstrate that we learned the techniques rather than actually connecting with each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Partners are learning that self-awareness can become another form of disconnection when technique replaces genuine presence with each other.
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