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When couples learn music together but progress at dramatically different rates

My husband and I started learning violin together as a retirement project, thinking it would be this sweet shared journey, but he's picking it up so much faster than me that our lessons have become a source of stress rather than joy. Our teacher keeps pairing us for exercises and I feel like I'm holding him back while he tries to be encouraging but I can see his frustration when I can't keep up.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Two people are discovering that synchronized learning goals can create unexpected hierarchy and shame when natural abilities diverge.

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