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Scenario

When couples learn music together but progress at dramatically different rates

My husband and I started learning violin together as a retirement project, thinking it would be this sweet shared journey, but he's picking it up so much faster than me that our lessons have become a source of stress rather than joy. Our teacher keeps pairing us for exercises and I feel like I'm holding him back while he tries to be encouraging but I can see his frustration when I can't keep up.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are discovering that synchronized learning goals can create unexpected hierarchy and shame when natural abilities diverge.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Musical learning and transfer?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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