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When couples attempt narrative therapy together but trigger each other's patterns

My partner and I are both trying to reframe our stories about money and scarcity but we keep getting triggered by each other's old patterns and it feels like we're making things worse by trying to do this work together. When one of us slips back into the old narrative the other person gets defensive and suddenly we're both stuck in the exact stories we're trying to change.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people attempting to rewrite limiting stories simultaneously can inadvertently reinforce the very patterns they seek to transform.

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