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When couples both avoid conflict and create silent standoffs

My partner and I both come from families that handled conflict by shutting down and we've recreated that exact pattern in our relationship — when something important comes up we both go silent and then weeks pass and nothing gets resolved.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people with matching avoidance patterns have created a relational system where nothing can be processed or healed.

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