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When couples use intellectual debate to avoid inner examination

My partner and I both love reading philosophy but we keep getting into these circular arguments about what texts mean, and I'm starting to realize we might be using intellectual debate to avoid actually examining ourselves the way these books are asking us to. We're performing being deep thinkers instead of doing the work.

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What we've seen

Two people are weaponizing philosophical discourse to maintain ego defenses rather than allowing ideas to transform them.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The examined intellectual life?”

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