My partner and I both started PhD programs at the same time thinking we'd be each other's support system, but we're constantly comparing progress and getting competitive about who's more focused or productive, and it's poisoning both our work and our relationship.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people attempting parallel deep work are discovering that proximity can breed comparison rather than collaboration, turning shared aspiration into hidden competition.
“Where Are You with Deep work and focused learning?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.