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Scenario

When couples pursue demanding academic goals together

My partner and I both started PhD programs at the same time thinking we'd be each other's support system, but we're constantly comparing progress and getting competitive about who's more focused or productive, and it's poisoning both our work and our relationship.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people attempting parallel deep work are discovering that proximity can breed comparison rather than collaboration, turning shared aspiration into hidden competition.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Deep work and focused learning?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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