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When couples repeat family patterns despite awareness

My spouse and I both grew up in alcoholic families and we thought we'd broken the cycle by not drinking, but we're realizing we just transferred all the same control and chaos patterns into how we handle money and parenting. We can see it happening but we keep falling back into the same roles our parents played.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are caught in inherited relational patterns that persist even with conscious recognition of their origin and harmfulness.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Neurodivergence — lived experience?”

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