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When parent-teen polyvagal work becomes another battleground

My teenage daughter and I are both learning about nervous system regulation after her therapist recommended it, but every time I try to help her notice her activation she accuses me of trying to control her feelings. I can feel my own dorsal shutdown happening when she gets triggered and I don't know how to stay present without enabling her dysregulation.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The parent's own nervous system dysregulation interferes with their ability to provide genuine co-regulation for their child.

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