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Scenario

When parent-teen polyvagal work becomes another battleground

My teenage daughter and I are both learning about nervous system regulation after her therapist recommended it, but every time I try to help her notice her activation she accuses me of trying to control her feelings. I can feel my own dorsal shutdown happening when she gets triggered and I don't know how to stay present without enabling her dysregulation.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The parent's own nervous system dysregulation interferes with their ability to provide genuine co-regulation for their child.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Polyvagal theory in practice?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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