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When parent and teen both struggle with perfectionism during high-stakes decisions

My teenage daughter and I are both perfectionists and we've created this dynamic where we're constantly trying to manage each other's anxiety about her college applications. Every conversation becomes this spiral where neither of us can tell who's more stressed.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people with the same wound are trying to heal each other while accidentally deepening the pattern they share.

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