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When perfectionist parents and teens amplify each other's anxiety

My teenage daughter and I are both perfectionists and we've created this house where neither of us can make mistakes without spiraling, and now she's having panic attacks about school and I'm having them about being a good parent and we're stuck in this loop where trying to help each other just makes everything more intense.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people sharing the same destructive pattern cannot heal it alone because they lack the distance to see beyond their shared blind spot.

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