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When family members try to heal perfectionism together but create new performance pressures

My teenage daughter and I both struggle with perfectionism and we've been trying to work on it together by being more honest about our failures, but somehow this has turned into a competition about who messes up more authentically and it's exhausting both of us.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The attempt to collectively address perfectionism has generated a subtle new form of the same pattern.

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