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When parent and teen both want to reconnect but keep missing each other

My teenage daughter and I have been trying to rebuild trust after some really hard years and we both want it to work but every conversation feels like we're speaking different languages and I can see her shutting down when I think I'm being supportive. We're both trying so hard but somehow missing each other completely.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people can be equally committed to healing a relationship while remaining trapped in incompatible communication patterns that recreate the very disconnection they're trying to overcome.

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