My teenage daughter has ADHD and I'm realizing I probably do too, but now every conversation about her struggles turns into me either over-identifying with her experience or getting triggered by my own undiagnosed past. We can't seem to talk about her needs without it becoming about my stuff and I can see her pulling away.
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared neurodivergence is creating enmeshment rather than understanding, with one person's recognition overshadowing the other's immediate needs.
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