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Scenario

When couples have conflicting perfectionist styles that create chronic tension

My wife and I are both perfectionists but in opposite directions — I over-prepare for everything, she procrastinates until the last minute. We used to joke about it but now every shared project turns into a silent power struggle about timing and standards.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people share the same underlying anxiety about inadequacy but express it through opposing strategies that put them in constant conflict.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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Worth thinking about

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Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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